From The Spoon to The Cliff Hanger: What your sleeping positions say about your relationship

February 25, 2012

Are you a snuggler? Or do you prefer to sprawl out for the perfect night’s sleep? Are you a fan of The Cliff Hanger or are you more of a Honeymoon Hug type? Do you wish I would elaborate on what the heck I’m talking about? Thought so – I’m referring to sleeping positions for couples! The way you and your significant other sleep can reveal a lot about each of your personalities, as well as your relationship. Take a look at some of the most common couple sleeping positions:

(photo via Santacroce)

The Honeymoon Hug

This would be the position where the couple is literally hugging face to face. It is most common in the honeymoon stage of a relationship – hence its name. New couples or newlywed couples will find themselves in this position and it indicates that the partners are too dependent on each other to sleep apart.

The Spoon

We all know this position – the one where couples lay on the same side, with one effectively “spooning” the other. This arrangement is the one most common early on and also into long-term relationships. Spooning attains maximum physical closeness and allows one partner, most likely the male, to assume the “protector” role, while the “spoonee” feels secure and assured in the relationship.

The Sweetheart Cradle

This is a very common position where the more dependent or shorter partner sleeps with their head on the chest of the other. This position is extremely nurturing and shows strong signs of trust and affection from the spouse being slept on. They are literally pulling you into their venerable neck area – the jugular!

Loosely Tethered

This position is common for couples in a long-term relationship. Except for a few light touches of the hand, knee or foot, the pair is physically apart, indicating that the two are comfortable enough in the relationship to sprawl out independently, sans cuddling. This position illustrates that the couple is in a stable relationship; each sure that the other isn’t going anywhere.

The Pursuit

This occurs when one partner suddenly reverts to the other side of the bed with their back turned to the other, while the rejected partner quickly pursues The Spoon. This position may indicate that the pursuer is more dependent on the pursued or perhaps not receiving enough attention.

The Cliff Hanger

This may just be the ultimate comfort position – sleeping on opposite sides of the bed. In some cases, this position may be a rejection from both partners. However, in others it could simply mean each partner is looking for a good night’s rest. This often occurs in long-term relationships and marriages. Some experts recommend acknowledging the issue if you feel uncomfortable about it, in order to reassure yourself that everything is alright.

So which position do you prefer? Maybe try some new ones out, you may just find the key to the ultimate slumber. And be sure to refer to them by their names!